why (stupid) people like fish
give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for life
because it’s easier to ask for fish then to learn how to fish. i say this to all the morons out there who never want to listen to what wiser people have to say and keep hounding their friends and family for help a.k.a. money.
why is it that people don’t want to fucking listen and learn to grow the fuck up so they can take care of themselves? i see people who can’t even take care of themselves getting married, having children and end up having to take care of their ailing parents. sometimes they even buy expensive cars or property for the sake of feeding their ego, ending in deep debts for the rest of their lives. life is truly fucked up around here.
i was fucked up too, so shut up and don’t tell me i don’t know what it’s like. i’ve been there all right, but i got out of that world, and i did by listening, by learning from wiser, smarter people, not by being an ass and doing things my own stupid way.
when i was poor i used to hate rich people, but now the richer i get (not just financially) i start to hate poor people. not necessarily because they’re poor, but because 99 percent of the time poor people have poor minds. they don’t wanna fucking think for fuck’s sake, for their unborn baby’s sake. invest in your own damn mind for once, stop wasting money for elaborate weddings and expensive dinners when you can’t even afford it.
ok enough of the f-word but i’m just pissed that a lot of my ‘friends’ refuse to listen when i try to help them out of their misery but then come back to me a few weeks, months, years later asking for help. and why does help always come in the form of money?
so basically people want fish, but no one wants to give a shit about fishing.
‘help me mister my baby hasn’t eaten for 3 days. ‘
fuck those people. they should think about using condoms before they make babies.
August 26th, 2007 at 7:33pm
You should really grow up yourself first before you start preaching to others. Sounds to me like you’re simply projecting your own insecurities onto those less fortunate than yourself, kind of like a bully picking on the weak kids at school.
Maybe you’re not as rich as you think you are and you’re just bitter because you have to use what little money you do have to help your even less fortunate friends out.
Just because someone doesn’t live by your rules or take your advice doesn’t make them any less capable of catching their own fish. If you don’t want to help them, simply say so. Don’t be two faced!
August 26th, 2007 at 7:58pm
thanks dan. but like i said i was once there and it was really bad. i figured if i can get out of it everyone can too. life is about making choices and freeing yourself from whatever prison you’re in is a matter of choice. sure it doesn’t work at all the same for everyone, but i’m talking about those people who come to you for advice but they never want to really listen. what they want is your pity and your money. and dan, no preaching here, just ranting. and no i’m not rich at all, i said i was getting ‘richer’ which means i’m at a better place now than when i was before. but when you can be rich when you’re poor, that’s when you’re really rich.
so please, next time you want to accuse me of something, read carefully. maybe it’s you who need growing up. i’m not attacking anyone in specific, but you’re attacking me when you don’t even know me.
an eskimo from amsterdam, huh?
August 26th, 2007 at 8:18pm
Read your statements again. You are obviously attacking a specific group of individuals, especially with your comment at the end about not giving a fuck about someone asking for help to feed their hungry child (show some compassion you stupid man. What if that person fell on hard times due to unfortunate events, what if they were wealthy when they had the child, but now they are poor through no fault of their own!). You used to be a really decent person before you met Vie, now you’re just vicious, materialistic and shallow.
I do know you and I’m not from Amsterdam. I’m simply on holiday right now, reading your blog to remind me of who I shouldn’t be listening to.
You’ll be rich one day. I just hope the old JErm returns before then!
August 26th, 2007 at 8:44pm
that’s a lot of what ifs dan. i do know otherwise, otherwise i wouldn’t say those statements. i know a lot of people, and i mean a lot, who could have better lives but fucked it up prematurely by marrying to fast, or by doing stupid things without consenting others’ warnings. maybe i didn’t clarify and sounded like i’m talking about every bum out there, i’m not. these people know who they are if they read this, but i didn’t need to attack anyone in specific. i was just ranting, remember?
as for vie, that’s some statement. if you have any decency, come out and tell me who you are. who are you to defend people you don’t know and attack me? and now you attack my gf too on no basis whatsoever?!!
and the old jerm is still there, you’re just seeing a different side of him, the pissed side. you talk like you know a lot, how bout cross-checking your references before you speak up?
August 26th, 2007 at 8:59pm
You bring up the word marriage a lot. Is that hitting a nerve at all? I know both of you and have known you way before you met Vie, back when you were a real genuine friend to look up to.
That was only one if JErm, stop being an insensitive moron.
You know who I am, thought, I don’t think I know you anymore. Look at you’re becoming. Be brave, release the anger and find the old JErm.
August 26th, 2007 at 11:10pm
thanks moron, you just sold yourself. at least i didn’t get married and end up fucking up my children’s lives. i’m not pissed anymore, that was yesterday. today i’m amused by people who used to call me their brother. at least i didn’t have to hide behind any pseudonyms, i’m right here you fucktard, come kick my ass if you can mount up to all those bollocks!!
August 27th, 2007 at 12:51am
I think this “Eskimo Dan” guy needs to learn something about argumentative fallacies, i.e. an ad hominem, a non-sequitor, etc. and realize himself that the word “Eskimo” is offensive to Iniuts because it literally means “Eater of Fish.”
Quite possibly JErm’s statements hit home to Dan because he’s eaten so many fish in his life and unlike a true “Eskimo” never learned how to fish himself. This is probably the reason why he doesn’t understand the able having to bail out the unable time and time again because dipshits like him never learn how to fish. In my opinion, “Eskimo Dan” should grow up, stop being a little bitch and learn how to fish, or he can save us all the trouble and drown himself in the nearest lake.
August 27th, 2007 at 12:54am
There’s some behind the scenes drama going on here. People should stop pretending to be someone else and talk things out like a true friend should… that’s my 2 cents.
August 27th, 2007 at 1:07am
I’m not 100% sure who “Eskimo Dan” is after reading all the posts… but if he is who I think he is… I don’t think posting under a pseudonym to attack someone you evidently still care about is either respectable or beneficial to the situation. I think you 2 should just have it out and talk things over and consider each other’s points of view. Pseudonyms are cowardly, and it’s obvious that you WANT to talk to JErm and in your point of view want to talk some sense into him. So just hit him up and do it… ignore my statements earlier, I thought some random reader was talking shit. I didn’t realize it was a friend or former friend as it may be. I think I know who “Eskimo Dan” is… and yeah it’s a stupid ass name… just use your real name and talk it out, maybe after all the anger you 2 can be friends again.
August 27th, 2007 at 1:36pm
thanks alex, but i think i’ll sort for steak tonight, not many people seem to be asking around for ‘free steak’ i reckon!
eskimo dan seems to have disappeared, maybe he’s learning to make ice holes so he can fish. or maybe he fell in and drowned?
August 28th, 2007 at 3:14pm
Alex, as always coming to the rescue with his rehearsed dialogue. You two are the ultimate duo, hey? When someone has a difference of opinion with anything you two say, there you both are. Like a double act, or a tag team. It’s sweet! (nothing against you personally though Alex)
JErm, I don’t need to kick your ass old friend. You do that yourself. Oh, and I’ve never asked your for anything that I couldn’t already provide for myself. Even now I’d offer you my help if you needed it, but I sure as hell wouldn’t accuse you of not being able to catch your own fish!!
Peace out (as you would say!)
August 28th, 2007 at 3:53pm
ah you’re back. there’s nothing you can help me with. just remember you’re the one who crapped our friendship to begin with. and for what? you chose to believe your bitch when i was defending your ass. fyi i never betrayed you, you betrayed me!! so burn in hell fucker!!
August 28th, 2007 at 4:20pm
i’m just gonna say this… both of you obviously have a MISUNDERSTANDING you need to work out. Tone down the emotion, back up a step and talk it out… it’s obvious you 2 jokers still care about each other… even if it’s escalating into some super personal bullshit…
I gotta say Lee, you were in the wrong to use a pseudonym that noone could figure out until you left your clues… which were deliberate so Jerm would know exactly who you are… and attacking Vie wasn’t cool.
If you’re mad at Jerm, just tell him exactly why you’re mad and be a man about it… who knows, this friendship might actually be saved.
August 28th, 2007 at 4:29pm
I’m just gonna say 1 last thing…
Lee = Cool fucking guy and good friend
Eskimo Dan = King of ‘Ice-holes’
be who you are and come out in the open and talk things out… pseudonyms are pussy, and internet flamewars are gay. I’m also gonna say this… it’s easy to believe a girl over a friend, but remember that girls twist shit around and have ulterior motives. However, your friends are always trying to do the best for you; I believe that this current debacle is no different. If you try to see things from each other’s points of view you might just feel a little silly and be ashamed of the way you two have been behaving.
August 29th, 2007 at 12:36am
I’m still here for you JErm (if you need help), condemn me to hell all you want. If it’s ok with you, I’ll stay out of hell though and not burn. That’s my choice I guess!
You and Vie both bad mouthed me to ‘the bitch’, that’s my ex now btw. Strange how what you tell me and what ‘the bitch’ showed me in transcripts is completely different.
I betrayed no one. Try to remember all the shit you 3 said behind my back, then tried to back track on and don’t refer to my ex as the bitch anymore, I’ve not called your gf a bitch. Calm down and stop the swearing, it’s offensive and really does get my back up.
August 29th, 2007 at 12:59am
the bitch is still a bitch to me. if vie is forgiving enough to befriend her again that’s her choice. so you read the transcripts, i thought so. that’s why i call her a bitch. and i already cleared it to you what i was doing, you just didn’t listen you stupid fuck. i knew you wanted her off your back so i was doing you a favor by telling her that she’s better off without you, that it was your lost, that you were losing it, etc. if you didn’t understand that and had to take it all down emotionally, then you never knew me at all. and if you chose to believe what the bitch tell you over our years of friendship, then you never knew me at all. i didn’t think it was worth a fight to hold on to someone who never knew me at all.
anyway take it any way you want it. and i don’t know why you keep thinking i need help. it’s you who need help. go see a shrink or something. you’re mental dude. you have no sense it that brick head of yours.
i’ve been giving you time and waiting for you to turn around. but instead you come here to my space and attack me randomly under some stupid shit pseudonyms. you chicken shit. and you made everything i said personal when i wasn’t even talking about you. you’re one interesting nut case you know. i want you to burn in hell so you’ll see your real self again after the fire burns all that crap you got in you.
don’t bother talking to me anymore, or ever reading my blog again. just leave and let go or i will be forced to enforce ‘my promise’.
August 29th, 2007 at 1:07am
Are you threatening me now? Remind me about the ‘promise’.
I wasn’t assuming the post was about me, that’s your mistake.
August 29th, 2007 at 1:12am
Further. You emailed me telling me what a fool I’d been to dump her, that I should give her one last chance (you even called me a dickhead or words to that effect). You tried to talk me into taking her back again. I’m confused JErm, what were you saying exactly?
August 29th, 2007 at 1:18am
you need to sequence those ‘memories’ correctly stupid dan. of course you’re confused, you’re stupid, remember? anyway, bye!
August 29th, 2007 at 1:29am
it’s easy to say something behind someones back then tell them you did it in their best interest. it’s easy to take the ’sequence’ of events (facts) and twist them to your benefit. it’s not easy to listen to someone who used to be your best friend call you some nasty names and want you to burn in hell, you’ve got me there JErm. i’ll never bad mouth you to someone else or on a public forum. i want the best for you.
see you. bye!
August 29th, 2007 at 12:56pm
you started it you hypocrite. you badmouthed me first. do me a favor don’t ever comment here again. bye.. for good i hope. i don’t need you poking around my life. stalker!!